How To Prepare For Great Anal Sex

The main reason why women dislike or even hate anal sex is because they didn’t properly prepare for it. If your man suggests it one night and neither of you fully understand how to make it easy, pleasurable and fun then both of you are going to be in for one lousy time!

But once you understand how to properly prepare for anal sex, you’re going to find it a very pleasurable experience. So follow this advice and get ready to have some fun…

• Why Anal Sex & Regular Vaginal Sex Are So Different

The simple and very obvious reason is because your man is going to be stimulating your vagina during regular sex and your anus & rectum during anal sex. But how come some women adore anal sex and some women absolutely hate it? Why the big difference?

It all comes down to one simple muscle, your anal sphincter.

I know it sounds funny, but I’m totally serious!

This muscle is completely different to any muscle you will find in your vagina. The interesting thing about it is that it’s in a constant state of contraction. So it’s tense & tight all the time. Unlike many other muscles in your body, getting your anal sphincter muscle to relax can take a while, usually a few minutes.

Many guys don’t understand this. They think a little bit of lube will ‘do the trick’ and make everything easy and enjoyable for you. This isn’t the case (and you should let you man know this!). As well as using lubricant, you also need to give your sphincter time to fully relax. If you want to learn more about this interesting muscle, then check out the Wikipedia article on it here.

• The Relaxation Period

So now that you know about your sphincter, it’s time to learn how to get it to fully relax, so that your man can enter you easily and pleasurably. This is vital when learning how to prepare for anal sex properly. In order to do this, you need to allow it to slowly loosen up. You can’t rush things as it simply can’t rapidly relax. Additionally, it won’t loosen up unless you stick something up there.

Another thing to bear in mind is that if you are tense or very nervous, it’s going to take longer for it to relax. This is why I always advise that you first learn how to relax your sphincter alone before trying it with your man when preparing for anal sex. That way there is much less pressure the first few times you try it.

Now that you know about this interesting muscle, you’re probably wondering what techniques to use to get it to relax and loosen up, try these…

• Start Very Small

The best way to start preparing for anal sex is by loosening up your sphincter with something very small. I advise using one single finger. First grab a small amount of lube and cover your finger with it. Then rub some on your anus. Then get on your knees and lean forward so that your chest is lying on your bed. This is the best position to be in to help your sphincter to relax. You’re going to be in a similar position to the turtle position.

Quick note: It’s much easier to put your hand behind your back when penetrating your anus, inside of in front of yourself.

Then cautiously start pushing your finger into your anus. Like I explain on the main page about having anal sex, you’ll immediately notice how tight it is. After you get a little bit inside, stop and hold your finger there for a full minute. You’ll notice that towards the end of that minute, it won’t feel as tight anymore. Then gently pull your finger out, rest for a minute or 2 and then push it in again, this time try to go a bit deeper.

As you do, you may feel like you hit another layer of resistance. This is the other side of the sphincter muscle. It’s about 0.5-1 inch deep. As you push through it, go very gently and slowly as this is the area that has the most potential for pain. Then once your push through this last part of the sphincter, hold your finger there for another full minute before slowly pulling it out.

Then do it again. And again. Up to 10 times total. And make sure to pay attention to how your sphincter starts to loosen up. It’s simple, but it’s just the start. Here’s 3 pointers to keep in mind when learning how to prepare for anal sex:

•     Make sure to trim your fingernails first!

•     If you are wondering how much lube to use during this entire exercise, follow this simple rule: “It’s better to have too much lube, rather than too little”

•     Feel free to masturbate while doing it (P.S. You’ll find some excellent masturbation techniques here, here & here)

Now let’s keeping moving forward with your anal sex preparation…

Once you find that you can easily slip one finger up there, then it’s time to try 2 fingers using the same guidelines that I described above. Remember to go slowly and make sure that you stop if you feel like it’s too uncomfortable.

At this stage you may feel ready, but I always advise that too much preparation is a good thing. So if you feel that you’re like you’re almost ready, but need more preparation, then you should read this additional guide and these great positions for anal sex . But if you want more advice on preparing yourself for anal sex, keep reading…

• The Magic Of Butt Plugs

You’ll quickly find that fingering your anus is quite awkward if you want to do it for a sustained period of time. An easier way to get your anus loosened up is to use a butt plug. They come in all shapes and sizes, which means that they have very thin ones for beginners as well as much larger ones if you enjoy the sensation of being really stretched. So you can start with a small one and then keep ‘upgrading’ to bigger ones as you find it more comfortable. You can even purchase trainer kits which come with a selection of butt plugs of different sizes.

Once you put the butt plug inside you, it’s shaped so it will just sit there, meaning that you don’t have to do anything to keep it in place. So you can go about your daily life as if it’s not there all…if you are feeling particularly kinky!

• Dildos

If you want to go one step further in your anal sex preparation, then you should consider using a dildo that’s similar in size to your man’s penis. Just like with the butt plugs, you’ll notice how you’re very tight when you first penetrate yourself with it, but that you start to loosen up after a while.

Start with very slow, shallow strokes and as you get more and more comfortable, start to penetrate yourself a little deeper and faster. Again, pay close attention so that you don’t accidentally hurt yourself.

Now you know exactly what your man is going to feel like!

Important: If you do use a dildo in your anal preparation, make sure to wash it thoroughly afterwards before using it in your vagina.

• Make Sure You Talk To Your Man

You can do all this anal sex preparation perfectly, but it will be totally worthless if you don’t actually communicate to your man what you need and what feels best (as well as what feels painful).

So before you start having anal sex, make sure you talk to him and let him know that

•     You need to allow your anus/anal sphincter to loosen up, and this takes time.

•     You need to be in total control at the start because it’s very painful if he penetrates you without your sphincter being relaxed enough.

This is vital if you want anal sex to be pleasurable. Start on your hands and knees, with your man behind you on his knees like in the picture below.

Start Off In This Position, But Make Sure Your Man Knows That You Need To Be In Control

It’s a good idea to have been playing around with your fingers and even a butt plug for a while before your man enters you so that you are already loosened up and reasonably relaxed. Also make sure that you have already applied plenty of lube to yourself as well as to your man’s penis. Then it’s time to put the preparation aside and start actually having anal sex.

To start, your man needs to stay very still, while you back yourself up onto him. This way, you have control over how deep you take him as well as how slow you go.

Something Interesting Our Readers Discovered - Like when using a butt plug, you should try starting in the turtle position (tasteful demonstration here). For some reason this position makes it much, much easier to take your man at the start. I’m not a physiotherapist or scientist, but the turtle position somehow allows your anal sphincter to relax much more easily than most other positions.

For additional information and guidance on having anal sex with your man, you should take a look at these extra anal sex tips that will quickly get you up to speed. Additionally, if you want to see actual demonstrations of the best positions for anal sex, then check out this list here.

• How To Keep It Squeaky Clean

A major issue many have when it comes to having anal sex and preparing for it is…

The fear that it will be dirty.

Let me be honest, it certainly can get a bit dirty

But…
It will only be dirty if you don’t prepare properly. So avoid eating or drinking anything that will loosen up your stool for 2 days before you have anal sex with your man. This means avoiding things like caffeine, beans or any food that has too much fibre. Also make sure to go to the loo about 30 minutes beforehand. This is usually enough to prepare yourself properly for anal sex

But, if you want to go one step further, you might consider giving yourself an enema or even going for a colonic beforehand.

• Help! It Still Hurts!

Often, even after all this preparation, you may still find it a little painful. It’s a pretty common complaint and it totally normal. The important thing is figuring out what’s causing the pain. It could be that you are feeling nervous and as a result are tighter than you want to be. Or maybe you are not using enough lube. Or maybe your man happens to be particularly well hung.

As always, my advice is to talk to your man so that he understands how you’re feeling and so that you are both on the same page and he can help to make it a more comfortable experience.


More Details :-
My mail - ranganasextoys@gmail.com
T:P -: +94 0776 714 227

How To Find Your G Spot Easily & Quickly

         While this guide is going to teach you how to find your G Spot, men will learn a lot from reading it too. The G Spot is located in the same place for all women, but unfortunately some have trouble finding it.
Don’t worry I’ll explain why in just a little bit…. so if you have trouble finding it right now, please read the entire guide. Now on to the important question…

Where Is The G Spot?

If you check out the diagram above, you can see that it’s clearly located about 2-3 inches (5-7.5cm) inside the vagina on the anterior wall (the side of your vagina closest to your belly).

When you touch your G Spot, it will feel slightly different to the rest of you vagina. It should feel like the top of your palate in your mouth but softer. So it should feel slightly dimpled, but very soft to touch.

To reach your G Spot with your fingers, just slide your palm down your stomach, with your palm touching your stomach, all the way down to your vagina. Then enter you vagina with 1 or 2 fingers and curl those fingers backwards once they are 2-3 inches deep inside you. You should now be able to feel your G Spot on your finger tips. This diagram below should help:

I Still Can’t Seem Find It…. Help Me!
The location of the G Spot is the same for all women…however some women have serious difficultly finding it. They might even feel like they were born without one! Don’t worry, I’ll explain why you can’t find your G Spot and then I’ll cover what you can do to locate it.

Why You Can’t Find Your G Spot. Hint: It’s Not Your Fault

The reason for many women believing that they can’t find their G Spot is simply because you need to be aroused to find it. This isn’t a joke, I’m deadly serious. If you are not thoroughly aroused, then you are going to have difficultly finding your G Spot or getting any pleasure from the area where it’s supposed to be. So if your gynecologist happens to press on or massage your G Spot area during an exam, then you’re not going to feel much because you’re not aroused.

Why You Need To Be Aroused - There is an area just above your G Spot called the urethral sponge. This urethral sponge contains a gland called your Skene’s gland which swells and fills with fluid as you become aroused (Wikipedia has more on the Skene’s gland here). As the Skene’s gland swells and expands more and more, it causes the G Spot to become sensitive and protrude, becoming more prominent in your vagina.

I have indicated the Skene’s gland in light purple below. As you get turned on the Skene’s gland swells with fluid, which causes the G Spot to become more sensitive and makes it more prominent in the vagina.

So if you are not turned on, then your G Spot will not be swollen or sensitive and so it’s not going to be as easy to find. This means that if you are having trouble finding it, make sure to get thoroughly aroused beforehand if you are alone…. and if you are with your man, then make sure to have lots of foreplay first. This way you’ll be thoroughly aroused and easily able to find it.

Why You Still Can’t Find Your G Spot. Hint: It’s Still Not Your Fault
Ok, so maybe you’ve followed my tips so far and even used some of these masturbation techniques to get super-crazy aroused yet still have trouble finding that super sensitive area known as your G Spot. Here’s why:

The size of the Skene’s gland varies quite considerably from woman to woman. If you have a very small Skene’s gland, then your G Spot will never get that sensitive or protrude much, even when you are super aroused, making it next to impossible to have a G Spot orgasm. This is also backed up by science: When experiments were performed, some women were found to have no Skene’s gland at all (Seriously! You can read about it here), which means that their G Spot could never become really sensitive or swollen.

Don’t worry though, plenty of women who don’t have G Spot orgasms still have incredible sex live thanks to the multitude of other ways you can orgasm. These clitoral stimulation techniques, masturbation tips , even more masturbation techniques and these techniques for fingering yourself should be more than enough.

I Found My G Spot, Now What!?
If you have followed all my advice above and discovered how to find your G Spot, then it’s time to start enjoying all the pleasure that it can bring. First, I’m going to briefly cover the best techniques you can use to stimulate it on your own, then I’ll talk about the best sex positions to use for stimulating your G Spot

G Spot Self Pleasure
One of the best techniques to use to stimulate your G Spot is a variation of this diagram at the start of the article. While rubbing and massaging your G Spot with one hand, you can use your other hand to stimulate your clitoris like in the diagram below. Perfect for doubling your pleasure:

There are also 3 very specific G Spot massage techniques that I teach here in the article on making yourself squirt.

Maximizing G Spot Stimulation – Angle & Depth
When having sex with your man (or using a dildo), one thing you will naturally want to do is maximize the level of stimulation your G Spot receives. This all comes down to the angle that your man enters your vagina at and how deep he is inside you. This first diagram will give you an idea of how deep and at what angle you man should penetrate you to ensure he hits your G Spot.

But if you find that this angle doesn’t provide enough pressure, then he should penetrate you at an even more extreme angle like the one below. The same goes when you are using a dildo on yourself.

Sex Positions To Stimulate Your G Spot

Now that you’ve learned how to find your G Spot and how to stimulate it, it’s time to learn some sex positions that you can use to provide maximum stimulation to it during sex. I’ve narrowed it down to the best 4.

A quick reminder: It’s important to remember that as your G Spot is only 2-3 inches deep, most guys will need to be very shallow in your vagina. Some guys might even feel like they are about to ‘pop out’ of your vagina a lot of the time when trying to stimulate your G Spot.

G Spot Sniper

The G Spot sniper gets it’s name from the fact that it’s like your man’s only mission is to hit your G Spot. The most important thing here to focus on is the angle of your body and how deep you take your man. So play around with how far you raise your hips off the ground.






 Bucking Bronco

The Bucking Bronco is wonderful for hitting your G Spot, especially if you enjoy being on top during sex.






Rear Entry

The Rear Entry position is great if you like your man doing most of the work to hit your G Spot. However, to truly hit your G Spot and stimulate it properly, he’s going to need to follow some specific instructions…

Instead of simply thrusting in and out of you, he’s going to need to use more of a grinding motion. When he grinds forward/up on you, his hips will move forward and this will cause the head of his penis to ‘stroke’ your G Spot, provided he’s not too deep. If he grinds too far forward though, his penis will ‘pop out’ of your vagina. As always make sure to talk to your man and let him know exactly what you want.

Teaspooning

Teaspooning is so nice if you like your man being able to wrap his arms around you and hold you close during sex.













Don’t Confuse Your G Spot With Your A Spot
Some women don’t know that they have another super sensitive area deeper in their vagina. It’s your A Spot also known as the anterior fornix erogenous zone. This is located on the anterior wall of you vagina like your G Spot (that’s the side of your vagina closest to your stomach), but it’s much deeper than your G Spot. You can see it’s location in the diagram below.

Stimulating the A Spot also feels incredible, but slightly different than having your G Spot stimulated. Most guys will be able to reach it with their fingers and can use the same techniques as I described above to stimulate it. However, you may find that your fingers aren’t long enough and you have to use a dildo or something similar to reach it.

So if you discover that you don’t enjoy shallow stimulation (2-3 inches deep) where you G Spot is located, but instead prefer it much deeper, then most likely your A Spot is more sensitive than your G Spot. Wikipedia has more great info on the A Spot here.

I Need To Pee Every Time I Stimulate My G Spot….Help!?!?

Feeling like you need to pee when stimulating you G Spot is perfectly normal. Most women get this feeling because your bladder is right beside your G Spot. Take a look at the illustrations above to get an idea of what I’m talking about. So when you are pressing on your G Spot, you are also going to put some pressure on your bladder too. The most helpful thing you can do is pee before sex or masturbation. This will minimize the ‘need to pee’ feeling.

Additionally, as I explain in the guide on making yourself squirt, the fluid that you ejaculate when you squirt travels through the same that tube you pee from. This fluid comes from your Skene’s gland. But because it travels through the same tube as your pee, you may feel like you are peeing if you happen to squirt while rubbing your G Spot.

So now that you know where your G Spot is, you’re probably going to be interested in getting the most pleasure possible from it. This masturbation techniques article will help, as will this one and this one on fingering yourself. The squirting guide will also show you and your man every you need to know about female ejaculation during sex.


More Details :-
My mail - ranganasextoys@gmail.com
T:P -: +94 0776 - 714 227